Despite the excruciating pain I knew would accompany my decision I had to believe it would be better in the long run for myself and my family.
I kept in mind that the big picture of making a new life had to outweigh the almost impossibility that maybe tomorrow would be different if I stayed.
I had been down that disappointing road so many times before that I found it helpful to burn those memories in my head as I knew I would call upon them in the future when I felt shaky about my decision. And, here are some reasons that might propel you to make a difficult, but life saving decision: 1) You are mentally and physically exhausted in dealing with the alcoholic/addict's out of control behavior.
With all this said, here are a few reasons why one stays in a relationship with the alcoholic/addict possibly longer than they should: 1) Gripped with fear as to what life might be. 2) You can no longer trust what the alcoholic/addict says or does.
Deciding to walk away from a relationship is usually a difficult decision.
Some may feel that they are a failure if they abandon their relationship.
2) Feeling that children are better off with two parents rather than one, regardless of the discomfort and tension in the household. 6) Hanging on to the few shreds of normal behavior that the alcoholic/addict randomly shows (and continuing to hope that one day it might stick). 3) The alcoholic/addict continues to bully, ridicule, disrespect and blames you for their short comings and failures.
3) The alcoholic/addict is the chief money maker and you would be left financially compromised. 7) Social, family (extended or otherwise), and peer pressure that you should keep trying to stick it out. 4) You are weary of the constant merry-go-round of rehabilitation attempts that don't seem to stick for long. 6) You are no longer fearful of being alone, since you realize that you are already alone, as the alcoholic/addict is living a life apart from you with his or her drug of choice.
With any health issue, accurate information is key. Among women who drink, 13 percent have more than seven drinks per week.
There are times and ways to drink that are safer than others. No amount of drinking is 100 percent safe, 100 percent of the time, for every woman. For women, this level of drinking is above the recommended limits published in the can be viewed online at Dietary Guidelines define moderate drinking as no more than one drink a day for women and no more than two drinks a day for men.