It's a common misconception that jealousy is a sign of love.I recently saw the following quote on Twitter, from a source whose username at least suggested the author was associated with psychology: “The people who are really in love get jealous over stupid things.” I was surprised to see this misconception so deeply ingrained that even seemingly psychologically savvy people believe it.I feel unworthy, and the affairs left me feeling desperately unwanted and unattractive. We didn't have kids, but even if we did, I don't think I could handle it. I imagine it would take a lot of strength to keep sane. Despite the pressure from family not to, my life is much happier. But I've never suspected her of cheating because she says she doesn't, and I have no reason to believe otherwise.I keep a lot of the jealousy inside, but it eats me alive. I can say it's one of the worst feelings to experience. All of her previous partners became jealous/controlling because of her friendships and it drove her out of the relationship, when she never even had any thoughts of sleeping around.Jealousy can be a major relationship problem—a survey of marital therapists reported that romantic jealousy was a serious problem for a third of their clients..Respond to expressions of jealousy by reassuring your partner of your love.For years, I had tried to help her-she and I even grew up together, and she's known that no part of my life has ever been easy; that I face immense challenges daily, but for whatever reason, she's still jealous of me.I've finally realized that its because I have worked for everything I have, and its the life she wants: a loving husband, a nice home, relatively steady income, and the freedom to go where ever, whenever.
He always created a situation of triangulation to make me feel jealous and inadequate.
Suddenly she became this vindictive, jealous person, meanwhile nothing is stopping her from living the life she wants but herself.
She's with this guy that constantly cheats on her, which she knows about for sure, but still stays with him; she makes all these really poor choices, but then treats other people like crap.
I think a big key in not becoming jealous is realizing that the best way to prevent cheating is to simply be your best self. Make it so they will refraining from cheating because they would be a fool to jeopardize their relationship with you.
Are you your best self when you are constantly worrying where they are, checking their social media and texts, or nagging them about why they eat lunch with the same guy from work twice a week? In the case that the person is just a serial cheater and does it out of impulse or temporary boredom, there's simply nothing you can do to stop it, so it's not worth worrying about because it's going to happen regardless.