Maybe he just wasn’t that into me at first but my boldness, and subsequent cool-ness about the whole thing changed his mind?
(According to the guy friends I’ve spoken to, these theories are the most likely.) He was definitely into me the night we met, then after he wasn’t into me, but then my calling him sent him back to being into me, the point is, it’s never cut and dry.
However, it wasn’t until I broke the rules that I realized this type of situation can’t be so easily explained or dismissed.
Experience is the best teacher of all and this particular experience was an eye-opener and game-changer for sure. I met up with a friend one Saturday afternoon at a bar for a football game. He was cute, charming, and we seriously hit it off right away.
I didn’t get it, he was so into me that weekend, what could have possibly changed so dramatically?
I called a few friends to tell them what had just happened and they couldn’t help but laugh at the sheer awfulness and hilarious awkwardness of it all.
I looked at him, stunned, “Sorry, I forgot how pretty you are.” The only thought resounding in my head was WTF?!?
I was dying to ask why he didn’t call me but I restrained myself.
For one, it taught me not to take things so personally and not to think the worst of myself because some guy didn’t call.
Feelings are complicated, I mean you can be totally hot for someone one minute and totally turned off the next.
And just because something started out going in one direction it doesn’t mean you can’t take control and reroute.
Towards the end of the date, he looked like a fool in love.
He couldn’t pry his eyes away from me and said he had never felt this way about a girl after a second date. There was no doubt in my mind that I’d be hearing from him again and I was right.