) Maybe the Millennials secretly hate us—you’d have to ask them—but if they do, they’re doing an excellent job of hiding it. The young were loud, obnoxious, demanding and politically radical. We voted Green Party and never looked back, or for Obama but never expected much. Millennial pop culture is about flat affect: mumblecore movies and all-attitude-no-plot TV shows like “Arrested Development,” emo-influenced music, giant dollops of special nostalgia sauce everywhere, every member of every band dressed like they’re showing up to roof your house (but with Taliban beards). Which was one of the things Xers hated about Boomers (Xers hate a lot): they came so close to revolution and they friggin’ gave up. They’ve been horribly screwed—even more than us Gen Xers, and make no mistake, we were hosed big time. They will never make much money or get any government benefits or get much of anything out of the system. They devote their free time to movies about comic-book heroes, to video games and to fantasy football. But perhaps what we really need to do is put on suits and take our wives out for expensive dinners, like our dads before us.” That burns. My fogey parents proselytized about Benny Goodman and Benny Hill and the Four Tops, and guess what, it didn’t take. Sometimes, though—it’s not like it comes up a lot, just now and then—my Gen Xer cohorts let slip a complaint about our younger friends and colleagues: Why are Millennials, um, well, there’s no other way to say it: kind of boring? Though decried at the time as sad and alienating, the dynamic of that demographic divide was as natural as could be. The old get older and quieter, the young mature and gain influence and replace them. Just as their parents looked down on them, Boomers looked down on us Xers. We’re middle-aged and cynical and our tastes run to smart and sarcastic and anti-PC and antiauthoritarian, Tarantino/postpunk. Millennials didn’t just expect real Hope and Change. When they got radical, they came up with the blink-and-you-missed it Occupy Movement, which had as its centerpiece calls to reenact the Glass-Steagal Act. That, I think, gets close to the mystery of the Millennials. We’re too busy holding down four jobs.) Parents, they say, shouldn’t have to bury their own children. That it’s our (X’s) fault that Y hasn’t made its own mark: “The old generational identities that once defined us have broken down, and the net result is a messy temporal mash-up in which fortysomethings act like skateboarders, twentysomethings dress like the grandfather from My Three Sons, tweens attend rock concerts with their parents and toddlers are exposed to the ethos of hardcore punk.” And it’s up to Gen X to fix it (like everything else, apparently): “I know guys whose style of dress and off-duty interests haven’t changed a lick since college. Anyway, I don’t buy Hyman’s argument that passing the torch of our old cool (the Ramones, Beastie Boys) to the young “shortchanges” the young and makes us oldsters infantile.
so the sex isn't really for pleasure; it's for this other purpose of finding somebody."If what you're doing is looking for a partner in a culture that expects you to have sex before expressing romantic feelings, this sex becomes part of the game you're playing.Simply put, in previous generations, when two people went out on a date, nine times out of ten it meant that they were seeking a romantic relationship that they hoped would lead to marriage.Now, though, it’s very, To illustrate, a “date” in 2017 can simply mean going to a bar together, getting obliterated, calling her by the wrong name all night, proceeding to have terrible Tinder sex, and then never speaking again.The answer as to why is still a mystery, even to experts, but Dr.Wade has a theory."What has definitely changed is the frame for the sexual activity," Wade says, explaining that the umbrella term “date” has a different meaning now than it did in generations past.