Though you may have legitimate concerns to express or issues to bring up, doing so in a harsh manner can be damaging in the long term, to both your husband's feelings and your relationship.
According to Judy Ford, psychotherapist and author of Every Day Love, "Speaking kindly is a skill that couples have to learn.
But if you don't watch your mouth, sometimes the ugly truth comes out in hurtful—not helpful––ways.At the end of the day, no husband is going to be inspired to be a better, more hands-on and involved dad if his every effort is shot down, says Orlov."If he always feels like he's wrong, he'll only start to disconnect emotionally." So let Dad be Dad."The definition of intimacy is letting another person see your vulnerabilities," says Ford, and that includes admitting that your sex life might need some S. And chances are, you aren't fooling him: The very fact that he's asking usually means he suspects that something is up.When broaching the subject, start with the positive: "Express appreciation of the fact that he even wants to know—'that's so thoughtful of you, honey,'" suggests Ford.