I told her that in a few weeks, I'd be heading off to Europe with my boyfriend. I braced myself, as I usually do, and told her honestly, as I always do, "We met on Tinder."She blinked, cocked her head, and said, "But you seem like such a nice girl."*It's not that I'm particularly virtuous. What bugged me was that this woman—a person who's supposed to understand tech—had, like so many other people, believed the hype about Tinder being nothing more than a lurid hookup app. But more than that, it made me realize how pervasive the myth of Tinder serving one purpose and one purpose only really is.
We live together and have been dating for two years. author Nancy Jo Sales, who recently published a story about Tinder and the outsized role it plays in what she calls the "dating apocalypse," I kind of understood why the company was so upset.
Sure, Twitter's not a very dignified way for a business Tinder's size to defend itself, and if it was a planned PR move, as some are now saying, it wasn't very well-advised.
What's more, Tinder, as a company has made plenty of crappy moves, including charging older users more for premium services.
En español | You made the mistake of asking your adult daughter if that guy she went out with last night was "anything serious." She gave you a nonchalant shrug and smiled.
"Don't book the church yet, Mom — it was just a hookup!
back, I was at a pretty fancy party, talking to a woman I respect deeply.
In a national study conducted in 2012, the Center for Sexual Health Promotion found sex partners over 50 twice as likely to use a condom when they regarded a sexual encounter as casual rather than as part of an ongoing relationship.
Many older divorced or widowed men and women are in the same boat. You're probably not desperate enough to stalk your neighbors, or to go looking for friends with benefits in all the wrong places (bars come to mind).
They feel protective of their privacy and peace of mind, but they haven't become eunuchs or hermits. But offered a chance to reconnect with someone from your past — dinner with your high school steady, for example — you might just surprise yourself by winding up in bed.
Is that a deplorably manipulative state of affairs?
Possibly — until you stop to consider how many of us are comfortable with being unpartnered but how few of us are willing to remain untouched.