” On that same tangent, people think that interracial relationships don’t attract stares, criticism, or whispers.
Unfortunately, racism is still alive, all over the world. I wrote a piece about this that went viral, “dear world, saying my husband is ‘attractive for an Asian guy’ isn’t a compliment, it’s actually kind of racist.” No one seems to like the people their friend’s choose to date.
If you do not respect and appreciate your partners culture (to the extent you are willing to forsake elements of your own culture for their benefit), intercultural and interracial relationships are nearly impossible.
I started to wonder if there were any other couples “out there” like me.
It was heartbreaking to watch my friend’s intercultural relationship fall apart (and even harder to not pick a side).
I wondered where it went wrong – but the answer was pretty obvious to everyone involved.
And it is a little bit scary trying to live day by day. The hardest part of an intercultural relationship is deciding when to compromise, when to fight, and when to draw the line. What are you supposed to do if your partner is completely opposed to your religion?
Sure, this week I think it is a bit silly (but adorable) that Ryosuke makes me wipe my feet off with wet wipes before climbing into bed (even if I have been wearing slippers all day). He likes the fact I am ambitious and want to have a solid career, but what about in five years, when his family is pressuring me to quit my job to have (and take care of) kids? What if he thinks you should quit your job after marriage to become a housewife?
Those social keys, elements of sarcasm, and play on words expressions will never come naturally to each of us in a foreign language.What if he is racist against other Asian countries? I talked about some of the cultural disagreements I’ve had in this post about the differences between couples fighting in America and in Japan. I speak Japanese fairly-fluently (can understand everything, but have trouble formulating all of my thoughts in a timely and concise manner).I’ve been with my husband for almost three years; we are finding things we need to compromise on. But there is a understanding no matter how much we study each other’s languages, we will never be an integral part of each other’s families.Relationships also those other silly things like respect, the ability to change, stability, and understanding.Basically, Love is not enough (which goes against everything Disney taught me).