"All I want is to date a respectable, professional man of any color who loves me with all my chocolate skin and rolls.What bothers me the most is the fact that I'm not given a chance."Research on the subject highlights one unfortunate fact: Black women are the lowest on the online-dating totem pole."As a black woman who works in tech and sports, I'm pretty used to being in environments where being non-white isn't exactly considered an asset.
Christian has seen profiles declaring that they're interested in every race except black women, and someone once told her "her kind" wasn't "good enough to date." Another guy said he'd "always wanted to try a black girl" because rumor had it we're like "sexual toys." "I cried that night [after I got that message]," says Christian.I told the dude that was racist and not indicative of how all Indian people live," she says.And sometimes, the weirdness isn't from actual people, but from the dating services themselves.Of course, women of all races have to deal with BS online. But women of color lack that extra race-based privilege, which can cause some mind-bogglingly stupid reactions from people in the online dating world."As a plus-size black woman attempting to find a suitable mate or at least a date, the results can be pretty sad," Christian S., 30, a Dallas, Texas-based fitness blogger and the creator of The Plush Cyclist, tells SELF.She's tried out Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Ok Cupid, and