I moved from one date a month to one a week and eventually was going on up to two first-dates a week.There were several side-effects to this, aside from a busier schedule, that make me now believe this is the best way to approach online dating: 1.Looking back, this only made my dates uncomfortable and left me looking either weird or desperate.
With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less.Dating in numbers allowed me to make decisions based on what I desired, not based on how lonely I was at that time.It also helped me better define what I was looking for in my profile. Greater Comfort One great side-effect to dating so actively was that I became more comfortable with dating itself.I still wasn’t the most confident guy (for example, I still wasn’t randomly asking girls out in public) but I was becoming very comfortable on dates, which gave the appearance of confidence. Less Stress With dating multiple women, there was always another first date on the horizon. I lost my hell-bent desire to make every date go perfectly.When the stress lessened, I stopped paying attention to myself and started paying attention to my date.