The following is a special Web supplement to Dan Savage’s regular column, which appears in the print version of the Georgia Straight. Oh, and I’m not the only one of these women that I know. There’s a reason he’s called the Luckiest Boy in the World!Users are reminded that any links below are independent from Vancouver Free Press Publishing Corporation, and we do not endorse, control, or make any representations, warranties, or conditions concerning their contents or links. Kat I’ll be just one of many, and don’t think I didn’t miss your sarcasm, but I wanted to pipe up as one woman who has never—I mean never—met a man whose libido could match mine.If people would focus their attention on finding a partner who, while not perfect, shares most of their core values and at least a few of their personal interests, and then treat their partner’s sexual desires with respect and an eagerness to ensure their fulfillment in whatever way works for that individual, we’d have many more happily coupled people in this world.We have to not only destroy the idea that good sex is some kind of automatic bonus dropped in your lap when you meet Mr. Right, we also have to destroy the idea that there is only one particular Mr. Right for each person, in whom all relationship problems will magically vanish.The sulking that ensues doesn’t put me in a good frame of mind for a hot blowjob, however. " You’re right: Men have to learn that this isn’t a consolation prize. I am ready, willing, and able to get it on nearly 24/7.How I would love to hear, "Hey honey, I hear that you’re not up for some marathon fucking tonight. My boyfriend occasionally has to spend a night alone at his place to give his body a chance to recover, because when we’re together we have sex an average of two to three times a day.But she ignores the fact that testosterone levels are not static.Women can increase our testosterone production”¦and we should.
Sometimes I really want a hard fucking, sometimes, you know, all that pounding is too much. With no goddamn chocolate sprinkles, thank you very much. Loving Lesbian Libido My boyfriend tells me that I am a rare desert flower.Women view sex as an extension of love and romance, and I believe this gives them a warped view of sexuality from the beginning.The idea that we each have only one true soul mate with whom we will live in harmonious and uncomplicated bliss for all eternity is a crock of shit.Plays Well With Others Thanks for your response to NGU about the differences between sex drives as men and women age.What is particularly frustrating to me as a straight guy is when women whose libidos have subsided suggest that a lower sex drive somehow implies a more evolved state, that they are now focused on more important issues: social justice, discrimination, pedicures for their cats. I am a fully recovered former "sensitive man" who tried to empathize with women and their inane complaints about male sex drives, how we are such animals who think of nothing else and how we need to change. Ironically, it only made things worse—they then saw me as less of a man. Guys, stop being her girlfriend and lay down the law. You have testosterone, and biologically you are wired to be continuously horny and banging away at as many women as possible as often as possible to spread your genes.