) are even more susceptible to the post-hookup hangover.When we work to become more aware, we become more open and connected.Or the guy you may have known for a while who only texts you to see if you want to "hang" but has never asked you out on a real date.Or the guy who you've had a major crush on despite the fact that he is unavailable in some way but you just cannot deny the chemistry.
You will probably be checking your phone incessantly the next day for a text with a winky face and find yourself distracted by thoughts of him. Our desire to connect emotionally is amplified when we have connected physically because of the hormonal change in our brain AND because we are emotional creatures -- which is something to be cherished, celebrated and respected!
You may feel disappointment, sadness, anger, guilt and/or shame because a ton of oxytocin has been released without any kind of emotional connection present with the other person to be a container for it. I see a lot of pain and upset around feeling rejected after being so vulnerable, and anytime you get naked with someone, you are vulnerable!
If you relate to this, I want to tell you that you didn't do anything wrong.
Both are here for you to enjoy and express in ways that feel nourishing and pleasurable.
Your heart is connected to your sexuality, so when you open yourself up sexually, know that you are putting your sweet, loving and tender heart on the line.